Building my bridge

No one can build you the bridge on which you, and only you, must cross the river of life. There may be countless trails and bridges and demigods who would gladly carry you across; but only at the price of pawning and forgoing yourself. There is one path in the world that none can walk but you. Where does it lead? Don’t ask, walk! 
– Nietzsche


I needed this reminder this week – that I am the only one who can build my life. 

I choose to do what I do. 
I choose to put myself out there – teaching, lecturing, submitting manuscripts and grant proposals. 
For someone who is excessively introverted, this constant placing of the self in front of others – sharing what I have created, what I think is so critical and important, is so so hard. 

It is so hard. 

And yet. 

This is the life I want to build. I want the freedom to ask the questions that I want to answer. 
I want what I do to be driven by my passions, not someone else’s. 

This is my life. I only get one. 

If I don’t build it the way I want it, then, well, it’s not going to be a very fulfilling or happy life. 

Putting my work out there for feedback and (often) rejection is hard. 

The alternative, though, is that I would have to cross someone else’s bridge to build my life. 

I get to build this one. It’s a remarkable privilege, to have this freedom, these choices. 

It’s also a remarkable challenge. One that I need to rise to every single day, every single week. 

It’s been a crap week. Monday sucked. Tuesday was great. Wednesday, sucked. Thursday, meh. (It ended better than I thought it would, so that’s something?)

Friday I have more meetings than I thought possible. 
BUT. 

Then, for two days, my time is completely my own. I need this weekend to reset, recalibrate. 

I am so, so grateful for the privilege, the opportunity to build this life, this bridge, for myself. 

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