New paths…and the pull of the familiar

December 9, 2019 by Anne Leave a comment

I find myself torn between seeking new paths and new directions, and wanting the comfort and familiarity of the well-worn paths I’ve used my whole adult life.

I’m pretty sure this is an experience shared by many. How challenging it is to seek a new way of being, of doing… a new path through life that perhaps wasn’t anticipated, yet it beckons. Promises of new perspectives, new places, new ideas…

How does one follow a new path while remaining connected to the old? Perhaps intersecting with old paths periodically… crossing over, and spending a short time reconnecting to the path where it all started? Then continuing on, taking the reassurance of the familiar with us into a different future…

The paradox of being a questioner

December 6, 2019 by Anne Leave a comment

I am a questioner by nature. I don’t know if I align with Gretchen Rubin’s definition of questioners, but it is how I live my life. It’s how I make my living as a researcher. Question everything. Don’t be afraid to buck the trends, to pursue paths that others deem closed.

And yet. I hate uncertainty in my life with a passion. I prefer things to be the way I want them (ha, if you haven’t figured that out by now…). I have routines, habits that I live by. Breaking them and changing them is one of the biggest challenges in my life.

I have major issues with uncertainty in relationships. I prefer that people come out and say why they’re mad at me, or what their issues are. Just be straightforward – it saves so much time!

So… I seek stability in my daily life, yet I make my living by asking questions, by trying to subvert the dominant paradigm.

I’m comfortable with this dichotomy, even as it continues to puzzle me. Perhaps these two halves of me balance each other out? The yin and the yang…?

On to question for another day at work… and then to go home and fall into my comfortable afternoon and evening routine. Just another day in the life of a paradox.

Uncertainty…

December 5, 2019 by Anne Leave a comment

I’m trying to be more okay with uncertainty. With not knowing how every little thing will turn out every day. Trying, really, to be less regimented, more open to what comes.

It’s hard. It’s really hard for someone who is a creature of habit, of routine. But I am still trying – I figure that counts for something, right?

It’s harder when it’s uncertainty in relationships, in the bigger “life” stuff, vs. just the day to day choices that I make. I’m more okay with making those at the last minute, or changing my mind. After all, it only affects me.

But the bigger stuff? There are others involved – not just me. And in many cases, they are the source of the uncertainty. People are so, well, unpredictable. I like predictability – certainty – knowing how people will act, what they will choose to do.

But I also know that I cannot dictate what others do, the choices they make, even when they involve me.

I’m trying to be okay with the idea of just knowing that there are angels, and they dance.

Synergy

December 3, 2019 by Anne Leave a comment

Do you ever realize something, have a thought or even a revelation of sorts, and then…the universe conspires to make you realize that yes, this is where you should be, this is what you should be thinking… ?

It happened to me yesterday.
I’ve been thinking – and writing, in my personal journal – about how who I was led to who I am. How as much as I sometimes want to go back – back to when life was, well, a bit easier, I can’t.
And I actually don’t want to, now that I think about it.

The past is viewed with hindsight, those lovely rose tinted glasses of nostalgia.
And yet, there were things that drove me crazy about the life I was living then.
Those things that drove me crazy put me on the path to who I am now.

Who I was is who I am… those elements of me that I miss now? They’re still in me. They’re not lost – they’re simply serving as the building blocks for who I am now.

So, thinking all of this, and pondering about it most of the weekend, and… then I got Oprah’s newsletter in my email yesterday. (Yes, I know, but really – sometimes there are good ideas or articles linked in there!)

And this was the quote – from the Buddha, no less – that was in the image at the top of the newsletter…

Synergy. You gotta love it.

Rainbows and gratitude

November 27, 2019 by Anne Leave a comment

Who said that every wish

Would be heard and answered

When wished on the morning star?

Somebody thought of that

And someone believed it

And look what it’s done so far

What’s so amazing that keeps us stargazing?

And what do we think we might see?

Someday we’ll find it

The rainbow connection

The lovers, the dreamers, and me.

The Rainbow Connection (in Kermit’s voice, of course)

I came across these lyrics while cleaning up the ridiculous number of open tabs in my browser (side note: when did tabs appear, and what on earth did I do before that?) and realized just how much they resonate with me these days.

I am still trying to hold on to my dreams, despite setbacks.

Still trying to hope that good things will happen, that they’re right around the corner.

That despite the Jonah days and the strings of failures in life and in work, eventually I will string together some wins.

And that got me to think about what I am grateful for … I have so much to be thankful for in my life.

Family I love more than ever.

Work that I love.

Coworkers who get me and have welcomed me in with open arms.

Being more engaged, more involved, and more invested in this place where I live and work.

Therapy that – for the first time in my life – seems to be working, that is making me more aware of my deepest feelings and the truth at the core of me. Finally, someone who has me think beyond the superficial, and makes me dig deeper.

And related to that, finally (I think…) knowing what I want in my life. And knowing that it won’t be easy but I am strong enough to get through to the other side.

Focusing on the rainbows today…the possibilities…the dreams…